Comments on: How I Get Twins to Sleep During Nap Time Without Destroying Their Room https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/ Resources for Home and Family Life Wed, 28 Apr 2021 18:39:24 +0000 hourly 1 By: Leanna Boyle https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-356544 Tue, 27 Aug 2019 17:58:21 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-356544 In reply to Katelyn Fagan.

For sure, that’s why I am not a fan of him . He has two grown boys so he should know how to treat children, or go to the border of the country and see how those kids are treated. They have to sleep on the floor without pillows or blankets

]]> By: Katelyn Fagan https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-355971 Tue, 20 Aug 2019 01:53:47 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-355971 In reply to Leanna Boyle.

This was definitely not a long-term solution. These twins are now 9-year-olds and definitely not devasted for life, because nothing was taken away from them forever, especially not things they valued. What a crazy idea Dr. Phil has here!

]]> By: Leanna Boyle https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-355814 Sat, 17 Aug 2019 23:35:51 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-355814 The bedroom should be a sanctuary for children not a jail cell. Dr Phil calls what a child values “currency” and says if they misbehave it will be taken away from them forever. Even necessities like blankets, pillows and sheets I think this treatment is abuse and the child will be devastated for life. He calls it “commando parenting “ it doesn’t really work long term

]]> By: Tamara https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-320476 Wed, 19 Dec 2018 02:25:29 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-320476 In reply to kayleigh.

Oh dearest Kaleigh, if you do not have twins or even 2 children near in age then please do not comment with your heavily judgmental opinion on the life of others. I, along with many, many other twin moms as well as moms of single children look forward to nap time and also consider it golden. Do we love our children ? More than the world itself. Will we remember all the precious time spent together “on our deathbed”… of course! (Btw typing that just made me cringe at the dramatics you used) Looking forward to “me time” is not shameful at all but simply a form of self care that we all need as mothers in order to continue to give selflessly the other hours of the day. Honestly me so called “ me time” isusslly involves uninterrupted housework or meal prep and maybe a trip to the bathroom. We as moms need to support each other so please find some uplifting words and refrain from the mom shaming. Thanks!

]]> By: Ashley https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-264665 Mon, 14 Aug 2017 01:23:21 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-264665 I know this post is older, but I have to say that I was relieved to see your advice. And I can DEFINITELY relate. We have 3.5 yr old b/g Twins who share a room. Ever since about 13mo my husband has been home with them during the day. We value naps, but we also value being able to do stuff as a family and don’t always plan around naps and bed. They nap on the go when necessary AND since they were preemies, it was more important from day 1 that they were in an EATING schedule than a nap schedule, so no sleep training ever happened. Snuggles until asleep at night until they turned two etc. sometimes I feel guilty about not instilling better sleep habits and search the internet for how to fix it, but it seems it’s more of a toddler issue–we have sat with them until they fall asleep since we started putting them down awake. Transitions in development or to toddler beds, or now a big bed have all brought obstacles. For what it’s worth, I’m glad to find that what works for us (and that I sometimes try to figure out how to ween off of–sitting until they are asleep) is recommended by someone else. We still don’t get a full night’s sleep without one or both joining us most nights, the only real problem other than the time getting them to settled for sleep time in one room. Thank you for sharing. Empathy does seem like a perfect enough word.

]]> By: Mollsey https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-129384 Wed, 22 Jun 2016 05:34:01 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-129384 Thank you thank you thank you for this advice. I stumbled across your post in a desperate search for tips on how to get my twin girls (just turned 2) to nap. Introduction of the toddler bed suddenly meant no more naps. They NEED the nap. They are an absolute complete mess by 4pm if they didn’t get their nap in. Right now they have a field day with each other in their rooms. They tear the place apart, jump in each other’s beds, keep one another awake. It’s so exhausting going in every 15 min and I hate yelling at them and I hate how irritated and angry I get. I only got that way because I know they desperately need the sleep! I will be trying your tips starting tomorrow. About how long did it take you once you first started sitting in there with them? A few weeks? Months?
Thanks again for the advice!

]]> By: Las Vegas Mama https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-126272 Thu, 16 Jun 2016 20:00:46 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-126272 Hat’s off to you for figuring out how to get the kids to nap consistently!!! My 4 year old cries and basically acts as though I am trying to murder her when I try to put her down for a nap on the occasional times I know she needs it. I came from a family that LOVED naps (including me), so I really don’t get why my kids don’t!! Anyway, thanks for the advice, I think the consistency is key because I don’t try to have her nap every day, just some days. Thanks for the advice!

]]> By: Ellie https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-60505 Fri, 11 Mar 2016 14:18:20 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-60505 We LOVE the kidco peapod. We’re prepping our 2.5 yr old to share a room with a new baby. Now in a toddler bed, she’s doing the same – SO TIRED, but so distracted by all the possibilities of her room all to herself! Including trying to climb on top of her dresser and other shenanigans – simply not safe. After a lot of different attempts at figuring out how to help her get the sleep she needs, we decided to pull the peapod out of the car (we keep it in our trunk and use it when we travel or are out and about instead of a pack n’ play). We turned it into cozy nap time tent: special “nap pillow”, blankets, and she gets to pick a few books and 2 toys to take in the tent with her. I zip it up and turn on the music. Now she’s falling asleep within 15 minutes instead of the usual 45 minute battle to stay in bed. Whew!

http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00BWIPC6G/ref=sr_ph_1_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1457705571&sr=sr-1&keywords=kidco+peapod

]]> By: Katelyn Fagan https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-57463 Wed, 13 Jan 2016 06:58:48 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-57463 In reply to Jen.

Hey, thanks for getting it! A lot of people don’t understand this post at all and where I was coming from. Drastic times call for drastic measures. It ended up working well for us, and, of course, the toys were eventually moved back into their room, and certain elements of this system were laxed over time. Thanks for commenting.

]]> By: Jen https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-57437 Tue, 12 Jan 2016 20:09:06 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-57437 I have 2 children…a 4.5 year old girl and an almost 3 year old boy. They both nap…I completely understand your drastic measured to get your girls to nap. My son fights nap time occasionally but all I need is to have a stern voice and he goes to sleep. Your daughters and my daughter seem to have a bit more of a difficult personality when it comes to naps. She used to tear apart her room rip books, take everything out of her dresser etc. Sometimes you have to do some silly things to get naps bit if they seem crabby and like they still need a nap then you gotta do what you gotta do! 🙂

]]> By: Katelyn Fagan https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-54569 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 22:39:53 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-54569 In reply to kayleigh.

It’s less being proud, and more laughing at the extreme measures we seemed to have to take to reign in the craziness of twins sleeping in the same room at nap time. They are now 5.5 years old, and still their bedroom is pretty darn plain, and mine was pretty plain as a kid too. I hope they’ll remember time with me more than time they spent alone in their rooms too, or remember their bedrooms fondly because of the stories I told them at bedtimes and the prayers we had together there.

The removal of toys and books from their room was temporary. Very temporary. Really, the post was sharing more of our exasperation, and extreme measures we felt necessary at the time, rather than a “everyone should remove everything from their kids rooms so they’ll nap.” We came up with a better way of doing naps in the end, and they napped well past their 4th birthday. One still takes a nap like once or twice a week.

I still value nap time or quiet time now, because it is the one break I get during the day of the noise (I now have four children). But, I also work now during that time here on the blog. It helps them too.

]]> By: kayleigh https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-54553 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 18:43:52 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-54553 I couldn’t help but feel a little sad as I read this – you freely admit and even seem proud that your kids’ bedroom is like a prison cell. I loved my bedroom as a kid, and i know my son (age 3) loves his. It has cars and animals on the walls, and stickers on his bed,and a Disney duvet cover, and also has plenty of his books and toys. I’m sure he’ll recall it fondly when he’s older. It’s doubtful your kids will remember their prison cell so fondly.
And since youre all abput the naps, I’ll add this: mt son has occasional naps, but I’m not desperate for him to have a nap just so I can have me time. It must be hard having twins, but it is a shame that you view the time your kids are asleep as “precious golden time” rather than the time they’re awake. When you’re on your deathbed will you look back at the best times of your life and think about nap times, or will you recall fun times with your kids awake? I hope for their sake it’s the latter.

]]> By: Katelyn Fagan https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-26797 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 00:17:45 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-26797 In reply to Teresa.

When they were a year older than when I wrote this post, reading books at nap time definitely helped! One at least would usually fall asleep and the other at least calm down. This was helpful when at a friend’s house at nap time or something too. At the time I don’t think it would have worked as well as they weren’t as into books then and with twins, they often just liked to play off of each other and me instead of calming down, so the “don’t snuggle/don’t smile” was how I got them to calm down instead of engage with them (and it can be hard to snuggle with twin toddlers at the same time without them goofing and playing with each other).

]]> By: Teresa https://homecleaningfamily.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/comment-page-1/#comment-26791 Sat, 11 Apr 2015 23:10:52 +0000 http://www.whatsupfagans.com/a-prison-cell-bedroom-and-how-i-get-my-daughters-to-sleep-in-it/#comment-26791 I don’t get the whole “don’t snuggle with them, don’t smile at them” stuff. When mine were that age, at nap time we would all get into my big bed. I’d read a story or two and we’d snuggle together and they’d fall asleep. It was very pleasant and peaceful! I would have a book handy to read if I wanted to stay with them, or I could go do other work once they were sound asleep.

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