Comments on: The Secret to Being a Happy Mother

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Sat, 29 Mar 2014 12:58:07 +0000

In reply to Ciara. You are welcome! You know, my journey to be SAHM was different then yours, but I couldn't agree more that sometimes those setbacks in life, those illness or accidents can be blessings in disguise! My husband was in a car accident and broke his sternum, totaled our one and only car, and meant he was out of work for like 2 months, which meant even less pay. Oh, and we had a miscarriage during that time too. It was a crazy year, but after it was all through, we were able to pay off our credit car debt, become a two car family, and my husband decided to go back to school, and take our family in a new direction.

By: Ciara

Ciara — Sat, 29 Mar 2014 12:36:57 +0000

I can really relate to several parts of your story. I found going to play groups and mother and baby groups with my first child very stressful and intimidating. I felt very “unworthy” and would spend the days following such meetings fretting over whether or not I was doing a good enough job. I eventually gave up on going to those groups as they were causing me to really doubt myself. I returned to work after having both my children mainly because I felt I had to prove that I could to it all, that I could successful aid in the leading of a very large primary school as Deputy Principal, that I was putting my education to work (after all I didn’t spend 8 years in university to look after babies-I have been told this by “friends”), that I could be super mum and wife extradinaire. In reality I felt so torn, so guilty, so unhappy until a blessing in disguise entered outlives I became seriously ill. Yes, I do believe that my illness, though scary, was a blessing it helped me to set my priorities straight, it helped me clarify what was important for my family (no one else’s) , I decided to make being with my children physically, emotionally, spiritually, educationally in their formative years my priority. Once I decided that I was doing this for us, for our family and it didn’t matter what anyone else thought, an enormous weight lifted off my shoulders. I loved how you used the word content, as content is exactly how I feel now. Thank you do much for sharing your story, it was heartfelt, encouraging and honest, a pleasure to read. Thank you.

By: Corinne

Corinne — Mon, 23 Dec 2013 14:04:40 +0000

It’s amazing that you have such a clear perspective on motherhood already! Your children are lucky to have a mom who appreciates the moments she has with them now, even though you have been in the most challenging time as a mother (especially since you are a mom of twins!). You’re right, it goes REALLY fast. My children are all edging closer to adulthood and each year the time seems to fly by even faster. Cherish the moments you have with them–even the trying times will bring a smile to your face later!

By: Katelyn

Katelyn — Mon, 16 Sep 2013 00:49:03 +0000

In reply to NewMommyofTwo.

Finding the right balance is the challenge of life, especially when kids are involved! I hope you check out the post I wrote today, that’s a bit of follow-up I suppose to this one – http://homecleaningfamily.com/2013/09/21st-century-stay-at-home-mom/

I finished school through online courses called Independent Study through my college BYU. I only had to take three courses to earn my degree since I had completed all of my major requirements right before they were born (literally). I completed them in one semester, mostly cramming in everything at the end of the term.

Being more in tune spiritually just helps everything! It helps my relationship with my kids and my husband, my academics (when that applied), and my own happiness. I felt more clear-headed about what I should do in my life. Say some prayers and ask for guidance, and then trust and believe that you’ll be guided in the right directions.

And, don’t beat yourself up, that’s for sure! The first year with twins can be pretty overwhelming! And every new stage brings its own sets of challenges and joys.

If you want more advice about twins, then you should check out a twin blog I contribute for called hdydi.com (How Do You Do it?). It’s full of mothers of multiples telling it like it is. Every Tuesday we do a spotlight about the first year with twins called Twinfant Tuesdays.

And thanks for commenting! Feel free to email me with more questions!

By: NewMommyofTwo

NewMommyofTwo — Sun, 15 Sep 2013 23:21:01 +0000

All I have to say is OMG! I hope when my girls turn 2, I can speak with that same sense of confidence and calmness as you do! lol my girls are still so little and I am in the boat of trying to figure out who I am, what I want to do with my life and furthering my education and starting a business vs. being a good mom, getting enough sleep and sacrificing almost everything for them. It’s a very tight rope to walk on, that’s for sure! I’m interested in knowing how did you finish your schooling with your daughters; I’m trying to do the same thing online but have such a hard time with it even though they sleep a lot during the day. I used to excel very easily through school but I’m finding myself having to rush through courses to keep up with everything and I HATE rushing it lol I know you speak of now how being in touch with yourself spiritually helped you more and I’m definitely trying to explore that (with newborn twins and all lol), but when did you start pursuing that more? I feel like this first year will be like a whirlwind for me and the girls and I try not to be too hard on myself but I’m a single mom (with help from my ex) and its still so hard for me. I pray that things balance out more as these months go by, but your post definitely gave me some hope that I’ll reach some type of normalcy soon!

By: Cody & Sharee

Cody & Sharee — Mon, 14 Jan 2013 21:23:56 +0000

I know what you mean, and you’re certainly not alone! Going from full time school, work, etc. to mommy is rough! I’m still working on it, but it gets better all the time 🙂