Comments on: I Don’t Regret Being a Young Mom

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 15:30:36 +0000

In reply to Cheyenne. Go for it!! I honestly haven't had many people judge me, or at least not to my face. Live the life you want! You are married and graduated from college. If you want to CHOOSE to be a young mom, then own that choice and let the haters hate. There are so many great benefits to being a young mom. Good luck with whatever you choose.

By: Cheyenne

Cheyenne — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 05:15:10 +0000

In reply to Emily, Our house now a home. This helped me so much. I feel like my biggest fear is how people will treat me & my child. I am 21 & my husband 25. We are married & both graduated from college with jobs. We’re planning on trying soon, I just want to be able to not be judged.

By: Emily

Emily — Tue, 04 Nov 2014 02:07:33 +0000

I stumbled across your post on Pinterest by accident but decided to read it. I am 24, almost 25 and have my masters degree in speech language pathology. This is often something people Oooo and awee about when j tell them my age and how quickly I worked through a very rigorous program. While I very much love my job chasing around and helping kids all day, I know that I am personally not ready to take on the challenges of motherhood. I hope you never doubt your self worth because you chose to a have a family early in life. I see children everyday who are not loved , clothed, fed and treated as they should be, which is often why I end up seeing them. Continue to be proud of your job as a mother, because it is the most important job of all.

By: Becca

Becca — Sun, 02 Nov 2014 08:02:42 +0000

I got married young, but kids didn’t come until I was nearly 30 – not really by choice. But, it happened when it happened, and I’m grateful for that time I had with my husband, just the two of us. We did get to do a lot of fun stuff – we travelled all over the world, bought a house, etc. and got to be selfish together, which was great.

I have a brother in law who is in his mid-40s and his partner is in his late-60s (gay couple). They just had their first children via surrogacy. I think waiting until your late 60s to become a parent is absolutely insane.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Sat, 01 Nov 2014 17:34:40 +0000

In reply to Lara. Thanks for sharing Lara! I'm glad you can relate, and glad to know it all is worth it in the end.

By: Lara

Lara — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 04:32:12 +0000

Hi Katelyn,
I saw your post on Mormon Mom Blogs at FB and love it. I wasn’t a very young mom (at least, not by Mormon standards), as I married at 25 and had my first at 26. But I think most of your points apply to every couple who chooses to have children at all!

I really relate with a lot of what you said–even though my husband and I married right after we graduated with our Bachelors Degrees, I still put him through six more years of school and two more degrees while we had young children and lived in student housing. It was all worth it in the end, though!

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Wed, 29 Oct 2014 15:59:27 +0000

In reply to Jodi. So true! No matter what your age is, you will ultimately have to ask yourself these questions and figure out what your answers really are, and not what society wants to make you think they are. :) Thanks for commenting Jodi.

By: Jodi

Jodi — Wed, 29 Oct 2014 14:12:08 +0000

I love this article! I struggled with these same questions for years except I was the one asking them. It took me until my early thirties to realize that I was measuring myself against someone else’s ruler and that life had lead me exactly where I wanted and needed to be!

By: Melissa @Serendipity and Spice

Melissa @Serendipity and Spice — Tue, 28 Oct 2014 23:48:13 +0000

I waited until I was older to have children…but that was the right path for me. You have to do what’s right for you and not worry about what other people think! I may be one of the oldest moms in my mommy group but that’s ok because I love hanging out with all the younger moms and everyone just automatically assumes I’m younger! 🙂 Everyone’s path in life is different and what matters most is that your happy and leading your life the way you want!

By: Kathleen

Kathleen — Sat, 25 Oct 2014 14:37:33 +0000

Great post. I had kids young too and had my last one at 29. Now I’m at the other end of it, they are all grown and living on their own. I’m a 49 year old grandma of 3 and it’s great to be able to get on the floor and play with them. It’s also great to just be able to pick up and go with my husband whenever I want. I think each person needs to make the decision that is right for them, within reason, and other’s shouldn’t be critical of the decision.

By: Hezzi-D

Hezzi-D — Thu, 23 Oct 2014 20:58:29 +0000

Love definitely is a gift. I’m a little opposite of you in that I’m glad I waited longer to get married so I married the person I was meant too. We are also a decade apart but for us this was the best decision we coudl make. I think as long as you are happy with your choice and you love the one your with, age really doesn’t matter!

By: Lauren Tamm

Lauren Tamm — Thu, 23 Oct 2014 05:08:16 +0000

I was 29 when I had J. So not young. But I don’t think having kids at a younger age is necessarily a bad thing. My mom was 22 when she had me, and you’re right, when she turned 50 I was already out of the house. Now she spends her free time traveling the world doing all the things she loves to do, and she has a lot more money to do all of those things. So whether you have more freedom in your 20s or your 50s, it all works out in the end. And yes, if you want 5 kids, you gotta start early!!

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Thu, 23 Oct 2014 03:56:17 +0000

In reply to Emily, Our house now a home. I do agree that there is this weird dynamic between me and "older moms" sometimes. Most of it, though, I think is in my head, and most people, I believe, are well-intentioned. Really, I think I more look up to my older peers, even if their kids are younger than mine. Thanks for the compliment on my family and for your comment. I am proud of my decisions and am glad you are too.

By: Emily, Our house now a home

Emily, Our house now a home — Thu, 23 Oct 2014 03:47:24 +0000

I have three kids, and for health reasons am not going to add anymore to our family. I was 25 when I had my third. I am now 29 and most of my friends have one maybe two kids, but they are all younger then my youngest is. My husband is 3 years older then me. We were young when we married and young to start a family. I adore all of it. I have energy for them. I would say the biggest struggle is of others treating me. Other parents have made comments on my age, assuming I was a teen mom (I was not, our kids were planned. And all came after we were married). And I get advice from everyone because they feel they can give me advice because of my age. I am just as much a Mom as anyone else. We are fortunate to not be struggling financially now, but if we had waited to have kids when we were comfortable we would have just begun having kids. I see my kids, and the years I have already gotten with them and feel so lucky. And like you, I see how old (really, young) I will be when they are grown up and see the possibility’s of so much for my husband and I, time, travelling, finances, and being a young Grandma. Enjoy your kids, and be proud of your decisions. I know I am, and you seem to be too. Your family is beautiful!

By: Tammy Northrup

Tammy Northrup — Wed, 22 Oct 2014 23:05:04 +0000

Great points Katelyn. I too was a young mom and wouldn’t trade it for anything. I am in my early 40’s and can’t really imagine being a mom to young children at this point in my life. It’s exhausting caring for our grandson for a weekend. 🙂