Comments on: When you feel like an Island

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Mon, 27 Oct 2014 15:07:14 +0000

In reply to Ama B.K. I am so glad I could bless you in that way! I really understand and wish you the best in finding who you are as a person, while in these new roles. God bless!

By: Ama B.K

Ama B.K — Mon, 27 Oct 2014 00:48:26 +0000

Wow, this really touched me. Everything you wrote about yourself being a peoples person, I can relate to that.

Before getting married and having kids I had a full life with a close circuit of family and friends, attending college, worked and travelled. I did expect some of these things to go once I got married but I did not expect the loss of identity.

I am slowly working on getting myself back and have realised the loss of identity has been no ones fault but my own. I now see motherhood and being a SAHM as a blessing, because I get to create a better version of me. A mature version of me, a more organized version of me, a realistic version of me. I get to reflect on who I was and who I want to be (because motherhood changes you) and working towards becoming that woman.

So thank you for writing this post, it has really motivated me to stop feeling sorry for myself and make the best out of what I have with God’s help.

By: Heidi @ One Creative Mommy

Heidi @ One Creative Mommy — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 19:24:31 +0000

So true, Katelyn. I think that’s why a lot of us blog. It feels like people know we exist! Have you tried finding a morning or evening walking/running buddy? I can’t do that right now, but when I was running with a friend, it made a huge difference! I was taking care of me (which we don’t do enough) while getting to visit. Definitely a win-win. (You might be surprised how quickly a friendship will grow with a morning visit while walking. Even if it’s not someone in your age bracket.)

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 16 Oct 2014 17:14:06 +0000

I live close to family and have still felt like an island being a busy mom. I think we can all relate to this post in one way or another. I know that because of my introverted tendencies I may be harder to approach, but we all need one another. And, sometimes it is just too hard to ask. Thanks for a great post! Sharing.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 16:14:56 +0000

In reply to Annie Reneau. Thanks for stopping by and commenting Annie! I like to think that my experiences will help me reach out to others as many have done to me. It IS really important, just like your article said!

By: Annie Reneau

Annie Reneau — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 05:47:48 +0000

Aw, I love this! Thanks for sharing my post and for your kind words about my blog. I’m so thankful for both my online mothering community as well as my support system in person. It is so easy to feel like an island. I try to reach out to new moms to bring them into this circle because it is SO important.

By: Brittany Bullen

Brittany Bullen — Wed, 15 Oct 2014 04:12:59 +0000

Katelyn,

You know, it’s funny. I don’t know about you, but I sometimes wish play group was every day, all day! I kinda wish we lived in a different kind of society where all the moms just worked together to raise the kids! But, that said, I really do enjoy my time at home with the kids… ir’s really true what they say, motherhood is the toughest job you’ll ever love!

You can do it! If nothing else, you have a great big community of bloggers who loves you, and that community grows every day!

Brittany

By: Erin

Erin — Tue, 14 Oct 2014 03:02:28 +0000

Wow- Katelyn. Thank you for sharing this! I definitely feel like an island since becoming a stay at home mama 3 years ago (3 year old and 1 year old boys). While they are the greatest blessings in my life, along with my husband- I still feel like I am in “survival mode” and my outgoing, attractive self- seems like is too far in the past. Honestly, I feel socially awkward at times now, when I do get around a group of adults. We are also getting ready to move 18 hours away from any family that we have- into a small apartment- and only will have one car. We know it is God’s plan for us- but that still doesn’t make it easy. Back to your post- Thankfully we have a Savior and someone we can turn to. Thank you so much for sharing and know that you are not alone. 🙂

By: Lauren Tamm

Lauren Tamm — Mon, 13 Oct 2014 13:43:43 +0000

I hear exactly what you are saying! It is really hard to make friends sometimes, and then after you meet someone it takes a lot of time to grow a friendship. Add in kids and everyday life and it’s hard to make time for a girlfriend. I really love a friend that can just integrate into my every day life. Pop on over for dinner, meet me for a walk, or just chat on the phone for a few minutes. My favorite way is really just to invite people over for a meal or a snack. The kids play and I can chat with a friend. Totally relate to this post. Thanks so much for sharing and being vulnerable.

Lauren