hi, im haley im 16 years and i bought a bikini no less than an hour ago and my family is shocked becasue they have never let me get one in the past and we have strong morals in our house. well, my mom and i had a talk and it left me hurt and upset because i realized i would be sending the wrong messedge to people who didnt know me. But i went online and i found your blog. Reading this has made me realize that i dont want to make other men sin. you worded your artical in such a way that it didnt make me feel shamed or emmbarrased, it made me realize what i was going to wear would make other people sin. Thnaks so much.
your freind haley.

Ha. Yes. Fuller figures are harder to find clothes that fit more appropriately for sure, swimsuit or not! And yes, I have stretch marks and extra skin (hello twin tummy!). They don’t really bother me, but they aren’t the prettiest either. Rather just cover it and keep it held it. 😉

Ha. I love fun bright colors too! Definitely fits my personality better. 😉 I think they only had it in black, and I just figured, well, who can go wrong with the classic black bathing suit, especially at that price? Now the maternity suit I just bought is a bright design and red/pink, with a black bottom skirt. I’m just happy it’s still covering my almost 9 months pregnant belly. That’s a feat for most of my tops at this point. ha ha ha.

You of course make a good point that even this suit wouldn’t be considered “modest” on another woman perhaps due to differences in body types. It’s why I have a hard time buying anything just off the rack, because my torso is longer than average, so it doesn’t cover me quite the same as a shorter woman.

I’ve found though, that it’s not what others think of my body, its about what I think of my body. I love happy colors… does that mean I’m trying to attract a mate? No way, I have a lovely husband. We love each other madly. That shouldn’t stop me from feeling happy in my brightly colored suit… my personality is reflected in my fashion choice. If I saw that black suit and the same style in pink, guess which one I’d pick? That’s right, the pink! 🙂

I know you have a religious restriction, and I support your choice, but realize that some body shapes will look overly revealed, even in that suit, even when the suit’s black. I love that you’re comfortable with your choice, but my choice is to show my kids that fashion is about making a choice to make yourself happy primarily, should not be a restriction that society can place on you, and certainly should not be used to judge others.

Wear your black suit, sister, I’ll wear my fun loving color (bought from the sale rack). Lets stop assuming that my bright colors are because I’m a perversion of some kind. Instead, it’s because I’m a lady who loves color, loves to swim, enjoys her kids and is kind of loving how her body fits into that swimsuit from the sale rack. Also, if my kids are in bright colors, it’s so I can find them in the water. 😉

Well thank you for your kind words! Just made my day!

Interesting stance! I’ll have think more about that one! Thanks so much for your comment.

I think one thing to consider in addition to modesty is the location in which one swims. If one swims in a public area where there is a lot of immodesty and a lot of skin, then I think it can be bad for a woman even if she is dressed modesty. We’re human and if we put ourselves in positions where we could possibly lost, what’s the point in dressing modestly in swim attire? I hold the stance that the beach is okay, and it’s okay to swim – but to surround myself with immodesty is actually immodest.

I agree. My swimsuit isn’t even as modest as many. And I agree that “athletic” swimsuits shouldn’t dubbed “mom suits” (whatever that really means).