Comments on: Instilling Values in Our Kids: Making Good Choices

By: Emmy @ Parenting Uncensored

Emmy @ Parenting Uncensored — Tue, 10 Dec 2013 14:28:14 +0000

Stopping by from the HDYDI link up party! Great post, we try really hard to always choose our words carefully with our 2 kids, and really emphasize that I am upset/disappointed with his choice, not with him as a person. It really does make a big difference to them!!

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Tue, 19 Nov 2013 20:50:20 +0000

In reply to Emmy @ Parenting Uncensored. Thanks for commenting! It's amazing how phrasing can make a big difference to a child's understanding!

By: Emmy @ Parenting Uncensored

Emmy @ Parenting Uncensored — Tue, 19 Nov 2013 13:30:46 +0000

Found this post on the babies & beyond link up, completely agree with everything you say! My children also respond to the choices phrasing, and once everyone is cooled down, going back to that makes it easy to point out to them what was wrong vs. right about what they did.

By: Helen Neale

Helen Neale — Sat, 16 Nov 2013 22:27:53 +0000

I 100% agree with this – its so important to point out to kids that they can choose how to behave or what to do, and its those choices that determine how they are; not that they are bad in of themselves, just the choice or the behaviour they are demonstrating. Next time with our guidance they can make better choices 😀 Thanks so much for linking this up to the parenting pin it party.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Tue, 05 Nov 2013 03:24:45 +0000

In reply to Crystal.

Thanks for commenting! And yes, explaining the consequence part is very important. And it WILL make a difference over time. That’s the hope of the series in a way – telling what values I am striving to instill in my kids now, even though I won’t know for sure if it “works” until much later.

By: Crystal

Crystal — Tue, 05 Nov 2013 00:38:21 +0000

One of my favorite phrases to use when my kids are acting up is, “make better choices.” When they get in trouble, I try to explain that their punishment is the consequence for the bad choice that they made. They don’t always get it (or care), but I think over time it will make sense.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Mon, 04 Nov 2013 18:37:09 +0000

In reply to Tammy Northrup {Yours and Mine ARE Ours}. Awe, Tammy! You are so kind to say that!

By: Tammy Northrup {Yours and Mine ARE Ours}

Tammy Northrup {Yours and Mine ARE Ours} — Mon, 04 Nov 2013 14:00:25 +0000

Katelyn I love the way you use good choice vs bad choice to ensure your children know that the choice was bad and not the child. You really are an inspiring young mom. Your children are lucky to have you.