I totally get what you mean about the large family being a “small” family thing! I grew up as the youngest of NINE children (technically 11 – 1 was stillborn and one died as a toddler before I came along) and I don’t necessarily see families with 5 children as very large, even 6 is kinda large to me. 🙂 I’m sorry you have to defend your “just two” especially given the circumstances. Congrats on what you’ve been blessed with. 🙂

Now my husband and I have two children earthside (I had three miscarriages) and because of life threatening complications I had postpartum after both of our children as well as after one of our losses…we are done (at least for the time being and as far as bio kiddos go…if we have more, it will be through foster-adoption). So now I get it from the other side…people wondering why I (as one of seven) only have my two. That is why sometimes I feel myself defending our reasons for having “just two”!!

Baby brain is real. 🙂 And there is nothing wrong with a whole bunch of girls, or never having a boy. You just keep loving what you have and enjoying your new pregnancy! Congrats!

In a 5 seater car even – can I blame this on ‘Baby Brain please? haha 🙂

AAAARGGGGGHHHH!

So our situation is, my partner had a daughter who passed away, then he had another daughter, I had one daughter, then we met and have one together and now we are having another one – 5 girls (he is starting to question his ‘Y’ gene)
I was happy with the 3 we had between us – 5 people in a 3 seater car, 3 bedroomed house – all fitted, I always said I wouldn’t have another one but as it goes ‘TOUGH!’ My Best Friend, My Soulmate and whole wide world – my Grandad passed away on 24th January this year, today he has been gone for exactly 23 weeks and today I am also exactly 23 weeks pregnant and couldn’t be happier – although this one is the defo defo final one 🙂 It will be C-Sec no 3 for me and will fill the house perfectly so my lil ‘miracle’ will completely complete us 🙂

Absolutely! I’m sure I will come across more people as my family expands who will question my choice to have four kids (or maybe more someday). But, I don’t know why I need to defend that position, or why they should have to defend their decision to have less than me. It’s all good, people! Children are good. 🙂

Absolutely! 5, 2, or 1, we should be encouraging and open-hearted and understanding. I do think that sometimes people are curious how you manage 5 when their two are running them ragged, and sometimes with five you may have wonder how two can run someone ragged! We all bring great things to the table and we can all learn from each other if we try.

It really is weird how involved other people can make themselves into others making-making decisions. And a family of all girls is just fine, as is a family of all boys! And I don’t know that I am any more organized than a mother with only a couple of children… I may be less organized in many ways. (Please don’t look in my cupboards.)

Okay, I hope you don’t mind me saying this; but I do admire mothers with more than just a couple of kids – I think you have to be so organised to keep it all together. Which isn’t to say that if I looked in your cupboards everything would be perfect (I’m one of 5 and my mom’s cupboards weren’t perfect) but I mean organised in the broader sense – you have a routine, you organise yourself to get stuff done. And I’m sure at times it’s mind-numbingly boring, but you just keep with it. I know for myself, with my two, there are days when I think “I just couldn’t be bothered” – then I think of my mom, and I just keep powering through, using her as my inspiration.

Couples without children are constantly asked, “When will you have a baby?” (Which can be infinitely painful if infertility is an issue.) One-child families are constantly asked, “When are you going to have another?” But come that third pregnancy and it’s “When are you going to stop?”