Comments on: The Day I Realized My Attitude Made Me a Hypocrite

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Fri, 17 Mar 2017 23:26:59 +0000

In reply to Leyana White. Thank you for your great comment! Best of luck to you with your new baby! Parenting is a crazy ride, but it is the best one to take. :)

By: Leyana White

Leyana White — Fri, 17 Mar 2017 15:29:37 +0000

This was so beautifully written and explained! Parents often forget that children notice and imitate everything that they see and although the day is exhausting and full of demands, we have to be so careful about what example we are setting for these impressionable little ones. I’ve seen and experienced this first hand and now that I am about to be a mother I’m so happy that other mothers are acknowledging this and sharing tips on how to overcome it. I have so many plans on how I’m going to parent and what kind of mother I’m going to be but I know that there are going to be times where I fall short or say/do the exact thing that I swore I’d never say/do because of how much I hated when my parents did to me. Thank you for sharing this article and bringing up such valuable points!

By: Jenny @ Unremarkable Files

Jenny @ Unremarkable Files — Sat, 16 Jan 2016 13:21:03 +0000

That’s the worst when I see my kids talking really rudely and basically just being jerks to each other, and when I think why that is happening more often I realize it’s because they’re following my example.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Mon, 11 Jan 2016 23:59:02 +0000

In reply to Kim @ When Caterpillars Fly.

I absolutely believe that becoming that parenthood is the Lord’s greatest tool to have us come unto him, to refine us, to help us become more perfected. I never knew my weaknesses as glaringly until I became a wife and a mother. And I know where I need the Lord’s help to overcome.

And YES, kids are wonderful, and they are people, and not some pet. Thanks for commenting. Even though I originally wrote this post like 2 years ago, it is still a struggle I face.

By: Kim @ When Caterpillars Fly

Kim @ When Caterpillars Fly — Mon, 11 Jan 2016 22:46:08 +0000

Arent kids wonderful? Really! Just when we think we have it all figured out, God uses them to chisel away at our imperfections just a little bit more! I can totally relate to this, especially today while I have an almost 2yr old who is cutting all 4 eye teeth and to say she is clingy is an understatement, lol! Ive been so snappy lately and I hate it. Your post really speaks to my heart! The biggest thing that helps me is to just repeat “She’s a person too. She has needs, wants and opinions just like I do.” and that usually get me on the right track (for a few minutes anyway). Its so easy to dismiss children as if they are some kind of pet, like a dog or cat, and forget that for them, reading a book or playing a game is a really big thing to them in that moment, even if it isnt to us. <3

By: Camille Gillham

Camille Gillham — Fri, 05 Jun 2015 15:48:05 +0000

I think the key between serving our kids with a cheerful heart and teaching them to be independent too is about clearly outlining their responsibilities. There is definitely a line between serving our kids and encouraging them to be lazy. If they understand what’s expected of them and we encourage them along that path- it’s easy to lead a helping hand. If we are using more positive words instead of degarding ones, it’s a win-win. I do think that we all need more patience and kindness in our families though and that starts with us.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Sun, 07 Dec 2014 19:19:17 +0000

In reply to Lindsey.

What a beautiful comment Lindsey! Thank you so much for leaving it! I sincerely appreciate it! Thank goodness for grace and forgiveness. And I do think teaching our children that it’s okay to screw up, and then what we should do when do so – say sorry, make things right – is so beneficial. Good luck and God bless!

By: Lindsey

Lindsey — Sun, 07 Dec 2014 06:29:32 +0000

Ok, WOW. I needed this tonight apparently, it REALLY hit home and i catch myself doing it often and the bad thing is I KNOW and then i kick myself! I don’t even like me sometimes how i react to certain things how on earth would they like me! BUT I learned the other day they are listening to me when i tell them i am SORRY for the way i reacted they forgive me. They are listening to me saying sorry which A GREAT THING TO LEARN! My son they other day told me sorry. He said mommy I am sorry for being loud and he MEANT IT, he is 4 (back story he was being ridiculously loud and his baby sister was napping in the next room…) ! I didn’t prompt him or tell him to say sorry, nothing, and he just did it and i just wanted to cry. he actually said sorry about 2 different things that day and it shocked me that he did without being told( ok now go say sorry to your sister for hitting her in the head, or whatever it was..) We are allowed to screw up and its a good thing if we didn’t screw up and say sorry sometimes they wouldn’t know how either 🙂 They are learning it is ok to screw up sometimes and that we love them anyways just like God forgives us for our screw ups. Sometimes I can only imagine what it must be like to God watching us screw up ALL THE TIME sometimes the SAME screw up over and over and he just says ok lets start over until we get it right. That is how we should be with our kids. If God can forgive me 7million times i can forgive me kids and give them grace everyday for their mess ups. 🙂

By: Carey Green

Carey Green — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 15:56:10 +0000

In reply to Katelyn Fagan. You're welcome! I'm enjoying getting to know your family through your blog!

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 02:32:04 +0000

In reply to Carey Green. Carey - It is totally about humility for sure and remembering that God has tasked us with this for His glory. Thanks for your encouraging comment!

By: Carey Green

Carey Green — Mon, 07 Jul 2014 22:36:31 +0000

Great, honest post. For me, serving my family has become less of a hassle and headache when I have myself in the right frame of mind, humility-wise. Reminding myself that I am a creature before my Creator, and His will is for me to serve those around me in His love helps me to submit to that will and take joy in it. Don’t get me wrong, I have my “off” days when I have a tough time too… but when I recognize that my God has given me these tasks and they are for His glory within His great plan, that enables me to move forward positively (most times). Thanks again for the great post.

By: Camille

Camille — Tue, 24 Jun 2014 04:16:18 +0000

I was just thinking about this earlier today. I’ve been a little bit snobby lately when it comes to serving my kids. Today I really tried to make sure I was doing things willingly. What a difference that makes. Its good to realize it and how blessed we are to just have these kids. I love them a ton so why not cheerfully serve them too.

By: normaleverydaylife

normaleverydaylife — Tue, 24 Jun 2014 00:10:19 +0000

This is such a good point! Sometimes I get so frustrated that no one wants anything until I sit down to enjoy myself. Then it’s like they come out of the woodwork with all their requests! I wouldn’t want someone else saying some of the things I say sometimes. I also think kids do need to learn to respect that mom is a person too though. Fine line to balance for sure! #HDYDI

By: Janna

Janna — Tue, 03 Dec 2013 17:30:41 +0000

This is wonderful! I often think about my tone of voice/what I am saying when I am talking to my kids in this way – If I were babysitting my best friend’s kids would I say this to them? If no, then I don’t want to be saying it to my kids. It helps keep me in check and to make sure I’m always speaking loving words to my kids, even when I am correcting them.

That picture is great! 🙂

By: Sandy

Sandy — Fri, 29 Nov 2013 06:33:34 +0000

I am oh so guilty of the big sigh when I am asked for something just as I am sitting down in the evening. And just today I was thinking about how many times a day I tell my son “in a little bit” or “just a minute.” I know that if I had that same attitude at work, I wouldn’t have a job long. I am so glad that my family and my Lord are so forgiving of me. I found you at the Women Living Well link party