Comments on: The Honest Truth: Parenting Twins is Hard

By: Muriel

Muriel — Sat, 02 Feb 2019 11:17:11 +0000

Hi. I ‘ve got 14 year old twin boys. I must say, like you they were my 1st. I loved every second, and by the look of it s a rarity as they were so good. If one cried, the 2nd one never woke up. The only thing is about food, must be exactly the same amount ! I had to count the sweets afront of them ?Maybe that why, it s now it is hard. They argue a lot, eat so much, I never see the end of what’s for dinner, I m hungry… Teenager twin are not a walk in the park, but won t change anything. Love my boys.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Wed, 13 Jan 2016 15:57:53 +0000

In reply to Theresa.

Four or five. 😉 Although I totally bribed my kids that if they let me clip their nails without thrashing (cause they totally did every time) we would paint their nails. Totally helped! That was before they were four. And then I got to paint mine too.

Potty training wasn’t too terrible. Ha. Good luck!

By: Theresa

Theresa — Wed, 13 Jan 2016 14:28:13 +0000

I do think having twins as your first children is mentally more difficult than even mammas who have singletons first and then twins. The shock of having no experience and TWO bloody hard colicky babies is likened to the trauma of going through war.
We multiple mammas know though that we must have help, that we cant do it all on our own. That it takes a village!

My two are turning two soon. I pray the potty stages go smooth. I am immune to Pee and Poop however. And the thought of no more diapers!?!. I think i’ll survive.

So what is the magic age when I can paint my nails again?

By: Savanah

Savanah — Mon, 24 Aug 2015 17:47:45 +0000

In reply to Katelyn Fagan. I was lucky. My oldest was 4 and still napped, so I got some down time during the day. Plus, both of my older 2 liked to help with the twins. They would get out changing supplies, cuddle with the twins, and read/sing to them so I could do something by myself for two seconds :)

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Sat, 22 Aug 2015 19:18:57 +0000

In reply to Savanah. I'm sorry for the sleep exhaustion you had!! I am always amazed at you moms who have twins after having other kids! I don't know if I would've handled it well because twins are so demanding, but your older kids need you still, so it's not like you can just sleep when your twins do during the day (which definitely what I did for a while with my twins!).

By: Savanah

Savanah — Wed, 19 Aug 2015 16:18:38 +0000

I had my twins last and although it was easier going from 2 to 4 than it was from 1 to 2, I’ve openly admitted that if I had twins first I would have been done after that! Twins are hard. I thought it was hard when my first didn’t want to sleep, then I had the twins & realized that was a cakewalk! I nursed on demand & the twins often nursed tandem, but in the middle of the night, it was often one right after the other. I don’t think I slept more than 2 hours a night for a month!

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Mon, 17 Aug 2015 01:56:09 +0000

In reply to Sabrina. I totally agree with you. No matter how many children you have, it can be trying and difficult to be a mom. If you read other posts, I'm sure you'd clearly get that vibe from me. I wrote this as a new mom, of twins, so I was speaking from my experiences of what I knew at the time, and when I wrote this, was clearing feeling the hard times. I didn't intend to prove anything, but to illustrate how difficult my life was at the time, because I had twins. I fully support all moms doing the best, and am thankful for the children I have. I now have two more children, both singletons. I do have to say they are easier than my twins!

By: Sabrina

Sabrina — Mon, 17 Aug 2015 00:51:22 +0000

I was looking forward to sharing this post with my friend who is having twins (she also has two other children) and got really annoyed at your line of having one is so easy, and even more annoyed at these comments that follow. No one with any amount of children would deny how hard it is having twins, and what whirl wind it is for a long time. But for any *new* mom, any number of children is hard because it is all new. And for any mom that has multiple children, no matter how close or far a part it is, it is hard because it is new to them. So, how about, instead of trying to prove to other moms how much harder you (or anyone on this post) has it, we just support each other as moms, and be thankful we are blessed with healthy children.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Wed, 24 Dec 2014 16:54:41 +0000

In reply to Kelli. I wouldn't trade my twins for anything either! They are such a blessing and a delight! But, yes! Those first few months are a haze! Thanks for stopping by and commenting Kelli!

By: Kelli

Kelli — Wed, 24 Dec 2014 06:39:58 +0000

My husband and I were just talking tonight about how the first few months of having our twin boys was a haze. The exhaustion!!! Our 20 month old son also contributed to this!!! It’s funny to hear moms of singletons or moms with two children years apart complain. That would be easy!! Two kids the same age is way harder than kids that are stages apart. They have no idea how easy they have it. But I wouldn’t have traded my 3 boys under 2 years for anything. One of the most precious things is seeing your twins have a relationship no singleton has. So sweet!

By: Emily

Emily — Wed, 29 Oct 2014 16:28:39 +0000

Oh. I have a 3 year old daughter and 18 month old twin boys. Life is crazy, fun and yes, oh so hard. Reading your post was very refreshing, to remember I’m not the only one haha.

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Sun, 10 Aug 2014 22:42:12 +0000

In reply to Rebecca Scaglione. Well you are welcome Rebecca! I really wanted to explain to my singleton momma friends why it really is harder. And for posterity's sake too. And yes. The diaper removing was a debacle for sure! Most people don't have to deal with that, and I hope you are one of the lucky ones. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and birth! I recommend checking out HDYDI.com (How do you do it?) for more twin-related posts. I'm a contributor over there and it's full of real moms of multiples telling it like it is.

By: Rebecca Scaglione

Rebecca Scaglione — Sun, 10 Aug 2014 19:24:02 +0000

I’m way late on this post’s bandwagon but I love this post. I’m expecting twins in late December, and came across this as a pin on Pinterest. Thanks for this post. It’s always nicer hearing from twin moms about having twins. It bugs me when moms of singletons or no kids say that it’s going to be tough. I mean, of course it is! I’m not dumb. I just can’t take their opinions as seriously as a twin mom’s. . . one who has been through it and can explain WHY it’s hard or WHAT makes it hard. Not just “oh that’s hard.” This post is appreciated!

BTW the potty training debacle had me laughing. . . but not too hard because I’m not trying to bring bad naked pee/poop karma on myself!

By: Katelyn Fagan

Katelyn Fagan — Fri, 13 Jun 2014 13:17:57 +0000

In reply to Courtney Conover. Oh my goodness! I can only imagine the chaos and the stories of having two sets of twins in ONE YEAR! That is incredible!

By: Courtney Conover

Courtney Conover — Fri, 13 Jun 2014 09:48:36 +0000

Wow. All I can say is may the force be with you. From the looks of it, you’ve got everything under control, so that’s awesome.

I really, REALLY wanted twins with my first pregnancy (and prayed I didn’t with my second; lol!) It’s a good thing I didn’t, however, because I had a fibroid tumor the size of Texas and carrying an extra baby could have been a very big problem…

My mom’s a twin: My maternal grandmother had two sets of twins 10 months a part…so in the first week of June — right before the older set’s birthday — they were ALL the same age.

Although my grandmother is no longer with us, the family stories about this time will live on in infamy…